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Dear Prudence,

A few days after Christmas, my oldest sister (“Clair”) sent a text message to me and my siblings (four of us total) saying “due to what happened on Christmas Day, I am taking a break from my family”—nothing more, no explanation, no response to us texting back “what happened?”. Christmas was at my house, and I could not think of anything bad that happened, and my other siblings were at a loss also. In talking to my mom a few days later, she mentioned that Clair was upset that we didn’t get her grandkids (ages 5 and 7), my grandnephews, anything for Christmas and that she and her family were topics of discussion and unwarranted questions were being asked about them and she didn’t like it. I can’t for the life of me imagine why.

Her son and his wife and kids moved back to the area three months ago and other than some baby gifts when they were newborns, no gifts have ever been given to them, so the expectation caught us completely off guard. As for being the topic of discussion and questions? How could we help ourselves when Clair was charged with vandalism a week before Christmas when she found out the married man she was seeing had no intention of leaving his wife for her, and she keyed and spray painted his car. Plus, why did her son, with supposedly a good job and a house, just up and move back with no explanation and remain unwilling to give one? And why is her unemployed daughter not applying where her uncle works, as they are hiring for entry level positions? Could it be because she knows she will fail the drug test?

This brings me to last weekend, when our cousin “Emily” and her husband were travelling near our area. They stayed the night at my house, so I invited my mom and other siblings, except for Clair (remember, no contact), over for supper. Yesterday, Clair found out about Emily’s visit and sent me a message demanding to know why she wasn’t made aware of Emily visiting and not being invited for supper. I mentioned her “break from the family” and she said “that’s not what I said,” so I sent her a screenshot of her message and said “I don’t know how to take it any other way except that you don’t want anything to do with the family.” Today she sent another message to the family saying she wants to be included in family things, but she and her family are “off limits for questions and conversations.”

Am I being unreasonable in thinking this requirement is ridiculous? In the past, she has had no issues in making my and my sibling’s families the topic of discussion, good or bad.

—Not Buying It


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My poem "Reap the Rules" has been accepted by Reckoning. It is my first sale to the journal; it is a particular honor that it was selected for the conflict-themed special issue It Was Paradise. I wrote it last summer after the U.S. strikes on Iran. It is a prayer dedicated in cuneiform to the oldest goddess I know in that region. The title is a mondegreen from Johnny Flynn and Robert Macfarlane's "Coins for the Eyes" (2022) which was about all I listened to while writing. Curse tablets do not seem to be going out of fashion any time soon.

I feel as though I remember to check out Festivids even less reliably than Yuletide, but this year has been a bonanza of which my socks-blown-off favorites look like "There Is No Ship" (Steerswoman), "ASSHOLE" (Looney Tunes), "Queen Bitch Cartagia" (Babylon 5), and "So It Goes" (Foundation). Honorable mentions to "It's a Sin" (Murderbot) even though I can't separate that song from Derek Jarman and "Hard Knock Life" (The Canopener Bridge) for introducing me to its fandom and perfectly illustrating the concept of storrowing.

My sleep has gone extraordinarily off the rails, but the snow in our back yard is criss-crossed with rabbit tracks. Hestia has broken three of the slats in my blinds in order to provide herself with a better view on Bird Theater.
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okapi's February LOVE-FEST

prompts:

1. first love
2. friendship
3. love of nature
4. passion
5. soulmates
6. unrequited love
7. lust
8. love of the game
9. devotion
10. love of food
11. polyamory
12. long distance love
13. lovesickness
14. romantic love
15. love of place
16. marriage
17. love of order and method
18. divine love
19. platonic love
20. infatuation
21. maternal love
22. obsession
23. agape
24. love of animals
25. unconditional love
26. forbidden love
27. ecstasy
28. the beloved

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Day 3: Love of Nature Shout out to the nature comm on DW [community profile] common_nature. I think everyone should be a member. I mean, who couldn't use beautiful photos of flowers, landscapes, and animals on their feed?

And have a new photo of the heron at the little lake. So photogenic and it sits so still.

Drive by post

Feb. 2nd, 2026 08:15 pm
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There's a Biggles February prompt fest, Biggletines, going on over at [community profile] bigglesevents:

https://bigglesevents.dreamwidth.org/18654.html

Feel free to leave prompts, answer prompts, or both!

Teacup Magic by Tansy Rayner Roberts

Feb. 2nd, 2026 07:08 pm
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Teacup Magic

3/5. Collection of three gaslamp romantic fantasy novellas (link goes to the first, I couldn’t find the exact collection in print that I got on audio) about a clever young woman who is determined to marry for love and who ends up in various magical problem-solving adventures with a handsome and mysterious spellcracker.

Frothy and fun, and they take themselves exactly as seriously as they ought. These are set on an archipelago of islands one of which is named, wait for it, Town. So you would go to Town for the season. So I liked these, but as always I struggled a bit with this regency-but-also-queer-norm world. Misogyny definitely exists in these stories, but they otherwise skip merrily past all the messy questions of property and inheritance and patriarchy that a queer norm world presents. Not the point, yes, but I always ask the wrong questions of these kinds of settings.

I will keep reading these if I can (a lot of her work apparently doesn’t get audio rights in the U.S.).
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okapi's February LOVE-FEST Day 2: Friendship

prompts:

1. first love
2. friendship
3. love of nature
4. passion
5. soulmates
6. unrequited love
7. lust
8. love of the game
9. devotion
10. love of food
11. polyamory
12. long distance love
13. lovesickness
14. romantic love
15. love of place
16. marriage
17. love of order and method
18. divine love
19. platonic love
20. infatuation
21. maternal love
22. obsession
23. agape
24. love of animals
25. unconditional love
26. forbidden love
27. ecstasy
28. the beloved

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Signal boost that the 3 sentence ficathon going on here: https://threesentenceficathon.dreamwidth.org/7020.html.

Prompts are accepted until Feb 15; fills are okay year-round. If you post some prompts in fandoms that you and I share, please let me know, so far there are 3 prompt posts with thousands of prompts and fills.

I did this fill for a Sherlock Holmes (ACD) prompt (domestic chaos) from [personal profile] smallhobbit.

Fandom: Sherlock Holmes (ACD)
Rating: Gen
Summary: Mrs. Hudson is sick. Mrs. Turner helps. (abuse of em dash)

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Question of the Day: Do you know (or are involved in) an 'unlikely friendship'? Sometimes the YT algorithm shoots videos of odd animal/pet friends, which are sweet and fun.

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Have a video short of the creation of Toad of Frog & Toad, the video is entitled 'Frog makes a friend.'

Courses - January 2026

Feb. 2nd, 2026 09:12 pm
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FutureLearn

Art and the Environment in South-East Asia: Making in a Changing World (National Gallery of Singapore)
A very interesting course looking at current day artists in South-East Asia and ways their art is reflecting the environment around them, with all the ways this is changing.


OpenLearn

What do Genes Do?
Gene Testing
Inheritance of Characters

Three very short courses looking at some basic aspects of genes.  It was helpful to learn a little more about DNA and how genes are passed on through the generations.

Introduction to Spanish
The German I had been thinking of doing was above my level, and while it's helpful to be challenged, there is no point in floundering completely.  So instead I took the new Spanish introduction, which served as a good reminder of what I know.

Things

Feb. 2nd, 2026 03:29 pm
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Like they would have painted a sinister sixth finger (come on down Mr Cromwell insisting on the warts): Hidden detail found in Anne Boleyn portrait was ‘witchcraft rebuttal’, say historians. Hmmm. Oh yeah? Am cynical.

***

Overlooked women artists (maybe I will mosey on down to the Courtauld....): The Courtauld’s riveting, revelatory and deeply researched show of ten lost female painters looks afresh at the golden age of British landscape art:

Some of Mary Smirke’s pictures were ascribed to her brother and Elizabeth Batty’s entire output was assumed to have been her son’s.

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Men are poor stuff. Men are terribly poor stuff. Men covertly filming women at night and profiting from footage, BBC finds.

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The Black Beauty in the White House: this is actually about the famous horse book, which was written in a house of that name. In Norfolk.

This is the story of a child from a coastal town in Norfolk, who would go on to influence life around the world and who is just as famous today. Not Horatio Nelson, but rather Anna Sewell, the author of Black Beauty. She managed to not only influence the lives of people but also horses (and possibly many other animals as well) with the story, published only a few months before her death.

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This looks fascinating though I need to read it a lot more closely: Right place, right time: Luck, geography, and politics:

On 12th May 2020, Mass Observation collected c5,000 diaries from people across the UK. Many of these diaries mention luck and many of these luck stories are geography stories. Geographers, though, have not written much about luck. In this article, I review the literature on luck from within and beyond geography to construct a working definition and geographical approach to luck. The working definition describes luck as chance, fortuitous, unexpected events that were beyond the control of those for whom they are now significant. The geographical approach distinguishes four geographical aspects of luck: the geometry of luck; lucky places; right place, right time; and the practical sphere.

Some number of things makes a post

Feb. 2nd, 2026 08:25 am
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Tea friends, I haven't forgotten you. Spent some of yesterday mixing up a few tea blends and gathering up bagged options.

The one thing cold weather is good for is chopping down one's unread book stash.
Reading )


Icons )


Flight Rising )
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I wrote a ficlet yesterday about Holmes' first love, his violin. Here is some instrumental background music in the same theme.

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Feb. 2nd, 2026 09:29 am
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Happy birthday, [personal profile] beable and [personal profile] marydell!

Happy Imbolc!

Feb. 1st, 2026 09:17 pm
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My plan today was to get a 20 lb bag of rice from the local farmers market, and then take BART to the other side of the hills and bike "the three bears" aka Bear Creek loop. However, the rice vendor said they didn't send him any big bags of rice this week, and I saw on the BART website that they were trimming vegetation between the two BART stations I needed and single-tracking the trains, so I didn't want to do that.

Instead, I decided to bike to 99 Ranch the long way (over Grizzly Peak) and get rice there. I texted a friend who lives up that way that I would get there approx 1:30 and did he want to meet up. It was a gorgeous day for a ride, sunny and just warm enough not to need a jacket.

Biking over the hill and seeing the flowering plum and cherry and magnolia trees is a touchpoint of the year for me. I was distressed last year that I missed spring hill rides entirely because of my injured ankle, so it was a treat to see all the flowering trees today, even if February 1 seems unreasonably early.

My friend and I texted each other updates from our respective journeys and did manage to meet up. I got to 99 Ranch at 1:28 after 2 1/2 of riding, so I was pleased about estimating accurately (without a mapping app). I got a 20 lb bag of rice for $12.90 instead of $40 at the farmers market, with the cost of a long beautiful ride and hauling it home (the flat way) for 7 miles. I'll take it!

I also spotted some Sterilite ClearView plastic storage drawers on the sidewalk with a FREE sign when I was fairly near home. They were the old style ones similar to the ones I have. I had looked for more online and now they only sell stacked units, not single ones. So I stopped and picked one up and strapped it to the back rack. I'll have to scrub the top of it, but it's nice to find something that's not available in stores.

Happy Imbolc to all!

Kill the Beast by Serra Swift

Feb. 1st, 2026 08:08 pm
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Kill the Beast

3/5. Standalone fantasy about a very angry young woman who gets hired to kill the dangerous beast that killed her brother.

This is just okay. Points for having the relationship that develops between protag and her employer be a friendship rather than a romance. Otherwise, this telegraphs its twists so hard that I spotted the one that drops around the 75% mark when I was only 15% in. Yikes. And it’s not just about wanting to be surprised, either – the emotional arc of this book probably only works decently well if you don’t see everything coming. Because the protag doesn’t, and she does need a few hard kicks to get her head on straight. But when you do see everything coming, it all just takes too long to play out.

Content notes: A lot of violence, references to parental death and abandonment, alcoholism.

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Feb. 1st, 2026 04:37 pm
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I finished Tasha Suri's The Isle in the Silver Sea yesterday and I am wrestling with profoundly conflicted feelings about it. It's an interesting book, it's an ambitious book; it's a book with a great deal to say, sometimes with a sledgehammer; it went in places I didn't expect, and appreciated, and also I think it maybe fails at the central task it needed to succeed at in order to make it actually work for me as a book.

The premise: we're on an island, and this island is composed of Stories About Britain. London is there, constantly caught between Victorian London and Elizabethan London and Merrie Olde England depending on what sort of narrative you're in. The Glorious Eternal Queen reigns forever with her giant ruffs and bright red hair. Each bit of the island is tied to a bit of story, and that story attaches itself to particular people, Incarnates, who are blessed/cursed to live out the narrative and keep the landscape alive with it. At this point this has been going on for so long that incarnates are usually identified pretty early and brought to live safely at the Queen's court where they kick their heels resignedly waiting for their fate to come upon them.

Sometimes immigrants come to the island. When they come, they forget their language and their own stories in the process. They are not supposed to get caught up in incarnation situations, though -- in theory, that's reserved for True Born Englishmen -- but unfortunately for our heroine Simran, she appears to be an exception and immediately upon sighting the shores of the isle as a child also started seeing the ghost of her past incarnation, indicating that she is the latest round of the tragic tale of the Witch and the Knight, who are doomed to fall in love and then die in a murder-suicide situation For The Realm.

Simran's knight is Vina, the mixed-race daughter of a wealthy noble, who is happy to be a hot and charming lesbian knight-at-arms but does not really want to be the murderous Knight any more than Simran wants to be the Witch. However, the plot begins, Simran is targeted by an Incarnation Murderer who kidnaps her best friend and challenges her to meet him on her Fated Mountain, and they of course have to go on a quest where they of course fall in love despite themselves and also learn more about why the current order must be overthrown because trying to preserve static, perfect versions of old stories is not only dooming a lot of people to extremely depressing fates but also slowly killing the Isle. This quest makes up the first part of the book.

I am very interested in the conversation that Tasha Suri is using this book to have about national narratives and national identities and the various stories, both old and new, that they attempt to simplify and erase. Her points, as I said, aren't subtle, but given Our Current Landscape there is a fair argument to be made that this is not the time for subtlety. I also think there's also some really good and sharp jokes and commentary about the National Narratives of Britain, specifically (evil ever-ruling Gloriana is SUCH a funny choice and the way this ends up being a mirror image for Arthuriana I think is quite fun as well).

On the other hand, the conversation is so big and the Themes so Thematic that they do end up entirely overshadowing the characters for me, which I do think is also a thematic failure. The first part of the book is about Vina and Simran's struggle to interact with each other and their lives as individuals, rather than the archetypes that overshadow them, but as Vina and Simran they also never quite felt like they transcended their own archetypes of Cranky Immigrant Witch and Charming Lesbian Knight With A Hero Complex. Which startled me, tbh, because I've liked several of Tasha Suri's previous books quite a lot and this hasn't struck me as a problem before. But I think here it's really highlighted for me by the struggle with Fate; I kept, perhaps unfairly, compare-contrasting with Princess Tutu, a work I love that's also about fighting with narrative archetypes, and how extremely specific Duck and Fakir and Rue feel as characters. I finished part one feeling like I still had no idea whether Vina and Simran had fallen in love as Fated Entities or as human beings distinct from their fate, and I think given the book this is it really needs to commit hard on that score one way or another.

Part two, I think, is much more interesting than part one, and changes up the status quo in unexpected ways. If I pretend that part one landed for me then I'm much happier to roll with the ride on part two, though there is an instance of Gay Found Family Syndrome that I found really funny; you can fix any concerning man with a sweet trans husband and a cottage and a baby! [personal profile] genarti will argue with me that she thinks it was more complicated than that, to which I will argue, I think it could have been more complicated IF part two had had room to breathe and lean into any of those complexities. Making part one half its length and part two double its length would I think fix several of my problems with the book. "but you just said that Vina and Simran don't feel specific enough" yes that's true AND they take three hundred pages to do it! I'd be less annoyed about them feeling kind of flat if we were moving on more quickly to other things ...

Anyway. I didn't find this book satisfying but I did find it interesting; others may find it to be both. Curious to talk about it with anyone else who's read it!

Sidenote: the Tales and Incarnations are maintained by archivists, who keep the island and the stories it contains static and weed out any narratives they think don't belong. This of course is evil. I went and complained about the evil archivist propaganda to [personal profile] genarti, who read this book first, and she said 'read further.' So I did! It turns out that in contrast to the evil archivists, the woods are populated by good and righteous librarians!! who secretly collect oral histories and discarded tales that have been deemed subversive by the archivists but which of course the island needs to thrive. I do appreciate that not all institutional memory workers are Evil in this book and I understand the need in fiction to have a clear and easy distinguishing term between your good guys and your bad guys, but Tasha Suri, may I politely protest that this is in fact also archivist work --

Sidenote two: v. interesting to me that of the two big high-profile recent Arthurianas I've read the thing I've found most interesting about both of them is their use of the Questing Beast. we simply love a beast!!

February LOVE-FEST

Feb. 1st, 2026 04:08 pm
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okapi's February LOVE-FEST

I am going to challenge myself with a set of 28 prompts. Fills might be anything ficlet, song, craft, poetry, quotes, etc. Please join in if you feel inclined.

prompts:

1. first love
2. friendship
3. love of nature
4. passion
5. soulmates
6. unrequited love
7. lust
8. love of the game
9. devotion
10. love of food
11. polyamory
12. long distance love
13. lovesickness
14. romantic love
15. love of place
16. marriage
17. love of order and method
18. divine love
19. platonic love
20. infatuation
21. maternal love
22. obsession
23. agape
24. love of animals
25. unconditional love
26. forbidden love
27. ecstasy
28. the beloved

Question of the Day: Who or what was your first love?

In the comments, share anything you feel comfortable sharing about your first love. It could be a person or it could be a thing or a place or anything.

I did have a boy in kindergarten give me chocolates for Valentine's Day. My first boyfriend relationship in high school was not a good experience and I spent a long time getting over it and undoing the damage.

But my first true love is probably detective fiction, and I remember reading Encyclopedia Brown and Nate the Great books and enjoying them very much.

Day 1: FIRST LOVE

Fandom: Sherlock Holmes (ACD) pre-retirement/Sussex era
Length: 200
Rating: Gen
Summary: Holmes reflecting on his violin on the journey from London to Sussex.

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Happy February!

Feb. 1st, 2026 03:37 pm
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Happy February!



What is going on in February? Black History Month, Groundhog Day (early spring, please!), Valentine's Day, Lunar New Year, Snow Moon, Mardi Gras, and Ash Wednesday and Lent, and in our household, the boys' father's birthday.

And I am going to attempt a February LOVE-FEST of prompts.

Culinary

Feb. 1st, 2026 06:30 pm
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This week's bread: Len Deighton's Mixed Wholemeal Loaf from The Sunday Times Book of Real Bread: 4:1:1 wholemeal flour/strong white flour/mix of wheatgerm and medium oatmeal, now that I have supply of these, splosh of sunflower oil, this turned out very nice indeed.

Friday night supper: penne with chopped red pepper fried in a little oil and then chopped pepperoni added, splashed with a little lemon-infused oil before serving.

Saturday breakfast rolls: brown grated apple, strong brown flour, Rayner's barley malt extract: perhaps a little on the stodgy side.

Today's lunch: pheasant breasts flattened a little and rubbed with juniper berries, coriander seed, 5-pepper blend and salt crushed together and left for a couple of hours, panfried in butter and olive oil, deglazed with madeira; intended to serve with kasha but kasha from new supplier did not respond well to cooking by absorption method; sweetstem cauliflower (partly purple) roasted in pumpkin seed oil with cumin seeds and splashed with lime and lemongrass balsamic vinegar, 'baby' (monster baby) leeks halved and healthy-grilled in olive oil, with an olive oil, white wine, and grainy mustard dressing.

Valentine's Bingo

Feb. 1st, 2026 04:36 pm
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For [community profile] allbingo this month, there's a Valentine's challenge, for which I'm using the romantic prompts.


DancingTaking It Slow
Dinner for TwoLove at first sight

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 [personal profile] dreamersdare has issued a challenge for February, to take part in Stuff I Love, which can be as vague as anyone wishes.  Their particular challenge is a Top Ten version with a different theme each week.  Further details here 

The first week is for Standalones in whatever media appeals.

So, my list, in no particular order:

1. Matthew Bourne's Swan Lake  I've seen it twice and both times have been sucked in, both by the drama, the humour, and the tragedy.  And I've written fanfic with the Prince, who has such great possibilities for his story.

2. Matthew Bourne's Nutcracker  Which is such a brilliant take on the story.  I've seen it once on stage and also watched the televised version.

3. Matthew Bourne's The Midnight Bell  A much smaller production, with only ten characters.  Based on the books by Patrick Hamilton, each character has so much potential, and I'm currently using them for drabbles for [community profile] small_fandoms drabblethon.  I've seen it twice, both times at Cheltenham, the first time was the premiere in 2021, and then again last summer, when the new production opened.  And when I got to speak to Sir Matthew Bourne - just to say how much I enjoyed it.

4. Matthew Bourne's Sleeping Beauty  Another new take on a classic story, but again really imaginatively retold.  I love the characters and use them in various fanfics, introducing them into other fandoms (just because I can)

5. Matthew Bourne's Romeo & Juliet  Moved to the Verona Institute, the staging and the music (Prokofiev) really add to the dance.  I've seen it twice - both times it's been a real gut punch.

6. Matthew Bourne's The Car Man  Reworking of Bizet's Carmen, based in Harmony, a small town in central USA, which doesn't live up to its name.  Still very hot and sultry.  Seen it twice, the second time in a limited run in the Royal Albert Hall in London.  It's touring this summer, but I'm not currently planning on seeing it again this time.  (On the other hand, Cinderella will be next winter/spring's production...)

And yes, these are all standalones, in the same way that a director can direct different films, or an author write different books.

7. Casablanca because it's the best film of all time.  Certain scenes always give me shivers.

8. Winnie-the-Pooh/The House at Pooh Corner  Okay, two books, but two doesn't make a series.  The original books by A A Milne, with the characters he created.  The different toys and their own characteristics and yet, somehow or other, they all live together in the Hundred Acre Woods.

9. 84 Charing Cross Road by Helene Hanff  Such a great book, which I've only recently read and wondered why I hadn't read it sooner.  It's a short book, being correspondence between a young American woman and an older English bookseller, it's also a great picture of England and the States in the 1950s.

10. Miss Pettigrew Lives for a Day by Winifred Watson.  Another book I had had recommended and finally got around to reading, and only then because there was a copy available in the library.  Published in 1938 is a wonderful look at one day in the life of a down at heel governess who has the chance to life differently for a day, and not in the Cinderella sense.  If you've ever thought 'I must read this one day', then do so!

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Feb. 1st, 2026 12:53 pm
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Happy birthday, [personal profile] hilarytamar!

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